The discovery was quite by accident. I was not checking, we were meeting D19 for breakfast and she wasn't answering her phone. WS said "text her" and his phone was near me so I picked it up to text her. It was on the screen when I picked it up. Truthfully, the last couple of years have been hard. S15 with the undiagnosed ADD, me new job, child left for college, WS job responsibilities up warp factor 10, best friend of WS left for new job/move, my mom into assisted living and health issues so she is demanding of my time.
Very busy, very demanding life since October 2009. We even commented on it. The relationship wasn't good with either of us, but for me, I thought it was just that season of our lives where our plate was extremely full and I could see the slow down coming. Just get through it you know?
No, he does not compliment. I can't remember a time when he offers up "I love you" first (his own daughter even says that). He is Mr. even no show emotion and avoids anything emotional. All the emotional heavy lifting is compensated for by me. Which is why he cheats and then says "what do you want to do". Lays it at my feet to decide all of this because he can't/won't make any sort of real move right now.
T: 28 years M: 23 years D19 S15 OW Discovery: 3/6/11
