Starsky, I did confront my W about the EA. I asked when it started, at what point she realized she had crossed a boundary between what is appropriate for a M woman, and if she felt guilt. She explained that this OM is someone she had known as a kid, briefly dated as a teen, then lost track of for 20 years. She "reconnected" with him about a year ago on Facebook as he was going through a marriage break-up. He is in the divorce process now and according to my W "his W is a psycho". I'm fairly sure my W and OM have had discussions about a potential future together, but they are waiting for the dust to settle on their current sitches before they move forward.
A good description of the problem, bboom. Now where's the BOUNDARY (including consequences) in there?
Starsky
I guess I'm a bit confused on this myself. If I have no control over W's behavior, how do I set a boundary that she will not respect? She decided 6-months ago that our M was over and has just been planning her exit strategy. We had a talk the other night where she brought up the subject of her moving out, and I responded that that was probably for the best. I don't think she expected me to go along so easily.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
