MLCer on Fast Track to Divorce

[AntoniaB]

Hi Shel, I've read through all of the posts here and I can tell you that some of what you've been told by him is word for word what my XH told me. It's MLC all over the place. There is not much you can do.

You have to let him go. You are going to stay caught up in this drama for awhile, likely, but eventually, you're going to see that it is hurting you, and then you'll really break away from it.

It is heartbreaking, yes. The fact that it is SO scripted, that all of them say and do the same things, is striking to me, it makes me think my god, this is a terrible mental illness and why is it not documented and why are people not aware of it more? I feel like the person who does these things acts like they are the first and only one to feel this way, and most people around them are so "flabbergasted" (good screen name, by the way) by the completely out of character behavior that they just stand there stunned and no one ever calls them on the behavior.

And you know if they did, it probably wouldn't matter. All my telling my XH that he was severely MLC made him become MORE MLC.

The best thing you can do is to try to remove yourself from his drama as much as possible and try to cultivate the parts of your life or the activities that make you feel good and at peace.

I know it is so very hard but you have all of us here who are/were in the same boat so we are there to help.