Nothing much further to report on my situation. I am closing in on 18 months since the Bomb was initially dropped. This was the initial timeframe I gave myself with respect to how long I would stick with the current situation of living like room mates.
We went to a funeral on the weekend for a friend of mine whose father passed away. These situations cause me great discomfort as none of my friends know about the status of our marriage. It pains to me see the other couples interact knowing the status of the relationship between my wife and I. I couldn't wait to get out of there.
Wife is leaving tonight for 10 days on a trip out of the country with her father. I am really looking forward to her being away. I have not yet had the discussion with her around the status of her and the OM. She has been really stressed out about her job and going on this trip so I didn't think that this would be an ideal time to push the issue. Her work emails show that they still communicate fairly frequently, but they alos indicate that they have cut off the contact outside of work hours. Before I confronted her about the EA, she was always texting him on the weekends and week nights especially before she would go to bed. I only caught a glimpse of these text messages once when she accidently left her cell phone on the dining room table. At the time I didn't know who she was texting but the content caught my attention. Work Emails from him to her now state "hope you have a good weekend" etc, implying that they won't be communicating over the weekend.
I am going to deal with this when she comes back from her trip. In the interim, I am going to use these 10 days as a chance to experience what life would be like without her. I still have in the back of my mind, a plan to expose her actions and file for divorce if she indicates that she refuses to stop seeing him. I don't really want to spend the rest of my life living like roommates while she goes off to work and gets her thrills with OM.
Its now been just over 4 months since I confronted her about the EA. She may need more time to get over it if it was going on for an extended period of time. I am hoping that while she is way she will reflect on where she is at and come back with a clear direction.
I am ok with her staying or leaving, but am not ok with anything that involves us and the OM.
