I have some of those weird thoughts too. STBXW is/was, I'm not sure anymore, hanging around some bike riding buddies of her bestfriend's. I had this thought that if I had to take a stand if they were around the girls I may be involved in fight with a biker gang.
Highly, highly, highly unlikely. But I had the thought.
I don't think I've given up the having "to win" aspect either. I guess I just feel like I am winning. I have a good social group. I have a house that the girls like. The finances are clearing up. The only thing I guess I don't have is a love interest.
I don't know if that helps other than I felt better as I made progress.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6