I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[ClingingToHope]

And another one bites the dust. A guy I know through work -- he owns a bunch of houses in town so I talk to him about real estate issues -- calls up to tell me he's getting divorced.

Last year, he and his wife split but after a few months they got together. But it wasn't going well and he fell into the same Internet temptations and she told him in counseling it's over.

Listening to him, I hear myself right after the breakup. He doesn't believe that it's over ....

I told him my biggest mistake was not seeing an attorney right away.

It's weird being the voice of experience on this subject.

It's weird at work right now too. Lady behind me is divorced and switching all of her stuff and doesn't close the door when talking about this stuff and I don't want to hear it.

The gaggle of girls in front of me are all having babies and in their first five years of marriage and ... it's tough sometimes to be happy for them. I remember those days when D12 and D8 were just being born.

Otherwise, things are good. The grudging realization that deep down I don't really like STBXW and am terrified the girls will end up with her issues is helping. I just made a bad bet. She was a trophy wife in a way -- pretty to look at and that's about it.

A week from today is the consultation with the bankruptcy attorney. At that point, I basically stop paying on the two credit cards STBXW stuck me with.

That's going to be freeing in a way, but I'll also have a long slog ahead in bankruptcy. I just checked my email. I had a court date this morning. I haven't heard anything since the last one so another month goes by with no resolution.