Originally Posted By: Country
what does it mean? What is the action?


The action IS patience.

The action may be to pull back a bit in HIS interactions.

The action may be to be able to let her feel life without Denver.

The action may be NOT to enable her victim status.

This ^^^^ one is tough because until she is able to see her own part in the M, and own up to it, then you are back to DB101

Validate her feelings. Not agree with them. Not reinforce them.

Ultimately if Denver is walking on eggshells he will not be able to act like the Denver he wants to be.

He will not have the R with his W he wants if she makes him feel that way.

Denver has been putting all the effort into this. She is accepting his effort but she still holds the cards and doesn't want to lay them down...

Stop the action.

Watch.

See what effort she puts in.

She may run back to OM.

She may not.

Which answer tells you whether she is ready to commit to a mutually trusting M?

Which actions (or inaction) by Denver will sweep the eggshells away?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am