Anybody's WAS in IC?

[meganna]

Karma, thanks for the response, very insightful. I don't expect my H to become a new man, but one huge issue is that he is very selfish, and that seeps into every aspect of our lives.
Unfortunately I cannot tell him what I want him to work on because he has left me and says we're done (after having an EA). He no longer cares what I think or feel. I think he's in MLC, but of course he doesn't and he doesn't think his childhood has anything to do with his unhappiness in our M.

I am having a very hard time coming to terms with this ultimate act of complete selfishness. We have 2 young D's and he is refusing to try to save the M (he had not communicated his unhappiness to me prior to the bomb and we only went to 2 MC sessions together, while he was in EA, before he decided he needed to do IC instead).

Anyway, now I'm rambling, but thank you for your perspective.