Journaling: While reading this board last night my DIL called from my Son’s cell. Son heard through the grapevine W and I met to finalize the terms of the D and wanted to talk about it. She and I bantered back and forth as she was asking me pointed questions about the meeting and my perspective.

I was less than communicative regarding the details of the meeting and my opinion of W and this sitch. I was friendly but firm. DIL has been firmly in W’s camp. I do not trust her. I told her I have been making a point of not discussing W, this sitch and how I feel about it with her and S as it was not appropriate and I did not trust her.

She said she understood why I would not trust her as we have not built a relationship and she appreciated my honesty. There are times when this 22 yrs old is incredibly mature and times when she is a small child.

I asked to speak with my Son. I tried to answer his questions without slamming W. I believe I was successful. I told him I wanted to hold on to the house, but it doesn’t look promising. So much depends on the market analysis and spousal support payments. They are two big unknowns today. We shifted to other topics and eventually I was able to ask if I could visit before he deploys. He does not want to see me as he would feel obligated to spend time with W also and this would take time from his relationship with his wife.

Of course this hurts. I think I covered it well. He knows I am disappointed but I understand why he needs to put his time and energy into his marriage relationship. We spoke some more and I think he left the conversation a little happier and relaxed. How long that lasts depends on how well he compartmentalizes.

I asked to speak with my DIL. She agreed he seemed happier and thanked me for speaking with him. We discussed trying to build a relationship. She asked me to call her and let her know what was happening in my world. I agreed to do so. We spoke about how we regretted the drama at Christmas and the opportunity that was lost to it.

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill