The Roller Coaster Keeps on Rolling

[Jack_Three_Beans]

What do you mean classic Mars- and Venus- speak???

I'm curious.

Example:

When women talk about their day and problems, they do it to vent and de-stress. My wife does.

When men talk about their day and problems, they are looking for insight, advice.

When my wife talked about problems, I was always trying to offer advice and ways to fix problems, when she didn't try any of my help, I got to the point of tuning her out. "Why is she asking me if she isn't going to listen to me?"

Problem was, she never was asking for advice, she just needed me to listen to her day. And with my wife...5 minutes of real time drama = 5 minutes of talking time drama : ) .

When I talked, I was looking for advice, but she just nodded along and listened and didn't offer any.

We both were doing what we wanted the other to do, without telling the other, Mars Venus.

Now? When my wife talks about her day, about 10 minutes in I ask if she wants advice or if she is just venting, normally it is just venting so I interject the appropriate nods and 'uh-huhs'.

And if I am looking for advice, I tell her before hand.

If I'm looking for a fight? I tell her that scientific studies have proven that men make better scrambled eggs than women and are better at spatial relations.