The year of not my problem

[AJM]

LOL. If it's not at a conscious level, I'm not sure I can answer that
In seriousness, I suspect there is some of that Disney-like quality about me that wants the "good" guy to win (that'd be me in this case). Don't we all to some degree?

I think there is some of that in the struggle, though Mach. Not as sure about what to do with it and have focused on other things to let go and or deal with. Each one in it's own time...

That was pointed out to me the other day as well, that I may be still feeling victimized. That until I stop with the victim thought, I would be trapped in this.
Ok, I can see that. What I don't yet see is how to let that go and be done with the legal two-step going on at the same time.

I kid you not, there is nothing left for stbx to take. There is nothing left for her to hurt me with. I actually have concerns for my physical well being because of that. I have been thinking I should be cautious about that because some young buck may believe her and decide to inflict violence on me to show her he cares. Silly and sick, but it was a thought I had the other day and I have rarely been incorrect about the actions - just the timing.

Anyway, if you have a suggestion about the competitiveness aspect, I'd be happy to hear it. I don't have anything to "win" except my freedom to be honest. And that is harder and harder to come by....

AJ