I am reading as you suggest but as far as DBing...I don't know anymore...it seems like a waste of time.
Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors. -- African Proverb
Bolt, if you only see DB as a means to get your wife back, and only that, then perhaps it is a waste of your time.
However, I think you saw in yourself some of the benefits of the mindset, even if they were only 'tricks' at the time.
DB is for you to become better at relationships and learn more skill sets regarding relationships, the idea is that you can use them in your marriage, the other idea(s) are they improve you, and they work on almost any relationship you are in or will be in.
Venting is helpful, and we are going to understand.
You got emotionally kicked below the belt with a sized 14 Doc Martin, I'd be worried about you if you DIDN't re-evaluate what you wanted.
But I hope you consider a couple things:
The LBS is the one who controls when the marriage truly ends.
Have you given your best shot? Or just your best shot when everything was 'easy'?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
