WAW and LBS

[gr8 day 2B alive]

I have learned on this board that there comes a time in dealing with the WAW that you need to let go and move on.

The sooner the better, but it all takes different times for everyone.

I'm not sure where this will all end up, but I'm confident that I will continue to be a good father and role model along the way.

This is in your control. Focus on it.

"He is not the cause of our problems, I didn't go out looking for a new guy to become emotionally attached to, it just happened. It's not my fault"

He's not a source of helping your problems out either.

He is validating her feelings, not trying to fix her. Women want to be lessoned to and not offered ways fix things.

Another thing I forgot to mention about our talk. W explained how unhappy she was with the current sitch and how she couldn't go on living under the same roof trying to act happy in front of the kids but being unhappy inside. I asked her what her plan was and what action she was considering to try become happy, and she looked at me and said "I don't know, what do you think I should do?". I replied "I can't tell you what to do, you need to chart your own course". The topic of MC came up at one point, but she thinks it would be a waste of money since she is convinced that her future happiness can't be with me.

Agree with her. You aren't happy with the current situation either. You think it's best for her to move out and the sooner the better.
This will earn respect from her. It may not feel like it does but women are attracted to men who know what they want out of life.

Get ahead of her in the thought process by thinking your M is over. The old one is in reality.
Make her feel like she is the one being dumped.