How much longer in Separated?

[jon2911]

My impression from reading your thread over a long period is that she wants above all for you to be stable, independent, and able to support her in all kinds of ways (emotionally, financially, physically, and so on). Is that how you see it too?

But by being upbeat, stable, and caring for yourself in different ways, you take pressure off her (the fear that she might have to look after you in the same way she's had to look after other family members in the past), and you allow her to grow and find herself.

Yes, that sums it up. Thanks again man. That's what I'm working on, and it's a tough balance. Financially, she brought up that I don't own a house and my truck is "almost shot". It would be really dumb for me to buy a house right now, and the vehicle thing I'm working on.

What I'm realizing is that nothing I could have done would meet her expectations. I told her I was in the process of buying a house when this dang recession got me laid off in 2009, and it's been a struggle since then. So it has to be for me, not her.

Saturday I was heading somewhere when my motorcycle died. First I called AAA but they couldn't find a tow company that does cycles, and said I didn't have coverage anyway. I realized that I was close to the dealership, about 3 miles, and pushed it halfway there but realized I wouldn't make it before closing. I found a well-lit parking lot by a Wal-mart, with security cameras, and parked it there. The next day, it was gone.

Car trouble is so tough being alone. I should have called a friend for help, but one was out of town and I felt like I've asked the others so much already. I thought I could handle it myself, and made a bad decision. I've dealt with the police and insurance, and should come out OK. A guy had actually made an offer on my truck already, even if I can't get it fully fixed. And I'll have a rental car for a while to figure things out. Just stressful to add car search to the list of everything I've got going.