GF, I know it's tough to understand, but my C told me very early on:

When a spouse decides you're the problem, there's nothing you can do to change their mind. Leave him alone and let him figure it out.

Me: 30
W: 28
T 8, M 6
S: 7-27-2007
W filed (again) 3-2011
Served 8-2011
Responded, now dark
"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK