I agree with you 100% This is the path that she has elected to take and she needs to sink or swim on her own and embrace the full reality and consequences of her choices. I offered to help to show her that I wouldn't stand in her way. I made my stand and told her that I cared about her well being and I understood that she needed to do what she felt she had to do. My first priority is the kids right now, followed by myself. I have learned on this board that there comes a time in dealing with the WAW that you need to let go and move on. I'm not sure where this will all end up, but I'm confident that I will continue to be a good father and role model along the way.
On a different topic: In our talk last night my W spoke about the OM in ways I have heard so many times on this forum before. It is so true how many WAWs exhibit the same behaviors and rationalizations for their actions. Here are some choice quotes: "He and I are just friends, we talk on the phone a lot because we have many things in common" "I have bumped into him at various bars in the last few months but we were with friends and nothing happened, just a hug or kiss hello, like friends" "He is not the cause of our problems, I didn't go out looking for a new guy to become emotionally attached to, it just happened. It's not my fault"
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
