Am I doing everything wrong?

[Confused423]

My H came over yesterday and we had a talk with our D who is having a very hard time dealing with the fact that he doesn't live here anymore. She finally opened up and explained that she was angry with him for leaving.

After the talk I asked him if he was OK and he said "not really...I just found out that my D thinks I'm an ***hole". I tried to explain that she doesn't think that, it's just that she is a child and she doesn't understand all of the dynamics.

We had a really good talk and he said "I thought that I didn't have any love left for you, but I realize now that I just didn't have any love for the woman you had become." It seems that he has really been noticing the changes that have gone on in my life. It makes me feel good as I have worked very hard on myself and I have done a lot of soul searching. I have really focused on what has happened in my life, I've let go of trying to control everything, and I'm trying to rebuild my self confidence and self love.

I want to believe that these are all positive changes and that maybe he is rethinking his decision, but then I remember that he is still with the OW. Does anyone have any advice on that? Are these positive changes or are they discounted because of the OW?

Thanks in advance for the help!

I hope you all have a Happy Day!