I did validate, and I apologised. She spent a long time offloading about work. I bit my tongue every time I wanted to talk about my day, or how I felt.
The thing I am really struggling with at the moment is that she isn't validating anything I say, and doesn't seem to be making any effort. I feel like I am running out of steam doing all the work all the time. It is all very one sided. I am trying to taking the positive bits from yesterday's discussion though - she was thinking about working on the relationship, and we do still manage to sit comfortably and talk together, and have a laugh together. I managed to not initiate any relationship talk - she did that. I didn't touch her, I didn't feel bad about going to bed seperately. No boundaries crossed by me.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
