Take it from an Army wife of 20+ years. I was alone MOST of the time for one deployment, school, etc. or another.
You have to take the steps to get one with your life. My H used to brag how self-sufficient I was, but now regards it by being hostile and smart a$$. That is HIS problem. I'm self sufficient because I HAD to be. And it has probably saved my bacon.
Explore a little. See what Being enjoys, instead of waiting patiently for H to get his head out of his a$$. That CANNOT be entertaining viewing. Trust me, if this is a new Being, then H will notice.
