Married for 30 years, 2 wonderful grown children unfortunately 16 years ago I betrayed my wife. We worked thru it and have had an incredibly happy and sucessful life. 4 weeks ago out of the blue, my wife said whe was going to file for divorce because of this past mistake. We had been incredibly happy together and this has devatated me. It happened so unexpectadly and suddenly and it has taken everyone by suprise. I and the kids are heartbroken. We were the perfect couple to all who knew us and I love her so deeply.
She has not yet informed her family of this which I think is a good thing. She is cold and distant when we do speak. We went to 2 counselling sessions and she said she will not go anymore. Last week was it she said. She was not participating she just kept saying she is done and she no longer wants to be married.
We have now been living apart for the last month and I am expecting to receive D papers any day. I do not know if she has someone else...she has gotten in great shape and been hitting the tanning booths....and looks great. I want to believe there isnt..perhaps there was and it is now over.
I groveled at first but have read DR and am trying to get a life and do a no contact (except when asked a question) 180.
Is there any hope or advice?
Smitty
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Me 53, W 50 Married 30 years Kids 21,25 (one married) both out of home Living apart now W now Refuses counseling Informed me March 8th of this I am new to posting so bear with me
Me: 53 W: 50 Married:30 years Bomb Dropped: 3/8/2011 Wants D, ILYBINILWY S21, D25 both out of home Now seperated Nothing filed yet I made mistake 16 yrs ago Very happy since..til 3/8
