Shelby, I'm sorry for your pain. It's never easy to find that the one you love, separated or not, is with someone else. I felt like my heart had been ripped out and that hole would never be filled. My advice is to let it go and get on with your life. The beauty of DBing for me was that while I tried to save my marriage I also developed a life that did not include her. There's no point in confronting or calling him on it, that's your pain speaking. You want to make him hurt because what you've found out has made you hurt. I say, feel your pain and decide whether or not you want to keep fighting for this R. If so, review the DB book and keep at it, if not, start re-building. Again, so sorry you're here and going through this. It does get better...really!
