I could not have said it better. I feel exactly the same. You get to the point of protecting yourself and refusing to go back to the chaos. It took me a long time, I guess I was a slow learner. I will never again get trapped in his web....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11