The Roller Coaster Keeps on Rolling

[islander]

Denver,

I know you are frustrated, and rightly so, but I still think your are in a very good place right now with your W. I think you should just keep doing what you are doing. It is working. The only thing that is not working is being impatient. You feel like you are so close and it should just happen right now.

One thing I noticed, and it is just my observation, is that once you and your W started talking about R and moving forward, I think you took that as an open door to talk about your R anytime you wanted to. I think sometimes it is ok, but like somebody else has said, listening is probably more important than talking right now. And I don't think I would hardly ever talk about or bring up the OM. you have nothing to gain by this and everything to lose.

You need to imagine, as hard as this is, that you have a new R with your W, and her OM is nothing more than a former boyfriend that you care nothing about. I know when you first met your W, you did not talk about all her former boyfriends and bow bad they were for her. So don't do it now. This is your chance at a new R and M with your W.

Be patient. You are doing great and have made HUGE gains. Just reread some of your older posts and you can't help but see how far you have come.