Have I forgiven my W? I can... I think that I have...
I see you trying to excuse it...by continuing to place the blame on him and her vulnerable state.
Stop making excuses for her. Excuses, make it easier to not feel the anger that we all have when we are betrayed.
The bottom line, it happened.
Forgive that. Not the reason you think she did it.
This advice was given to me once about a situation I encountered and it has stuck with me...
"IF he is truely sorry it will show, and unless you are an ice queen, you'll forgive him..."
I didn't need to go through all of the bull, although I tried to, to find that forgivness, I just looked to see through actions, not words, if it was there.
It really can be that simple.
Originally Posted By: Denver
My problem is with my W's opinion of OM and her inability to see things my way!! This is making me insecure, and causing me to ask for reassurance and validation...
LOL... not funny, I know. But I am recognizing the error of my thinking here.
BAM! My own 2x4 ... thank you very much.
You know, you being a lawyer, makes this a difficult concept for you. However, the truth really is, that you guys are not always going to agree on anything. It isn't possible unless you share a brain.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
