Sorry Nine... going to have to pretend that I didn't just read your post! LOL!!
In all seriousness though, I honestly don't believe that my W is capable of doing what you just described. I know that many a husband has probably said the same thing... I know that. But, at the same time, my W has expressed enough regret over he decisions during our S, and has expressed enough understanding of my feelings, that I feel comfortable in trusting her.
Like I've said, my W did not have to tell me about her R with OM before deciding to work on our M with me. In fact, she had friends tell her NOT to tell me about it. I would have never known about it had she made this choice. But she did tell me... because she wanted to be honest with me... bc she could not live with that lie. That is my W as I know her.
Thanks for your support man.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce