--You do need to own your part in the A. She had an A, because you were not a good H. You were not meeting her needs. You created a situation that allowed her to become vulnerable to that sort of thing. While you didn't force her to get into the bed, you did hold the door wide open for her.
You need to recognize this and figure out a way to make sure that YOU don't do that again.
And you need to forgive both her and yourself for it. If you don't, I can guarantee that the reconciliation, won't last very long...
Denver, deal with your issues. Deal with your feelings. Decide, now that the possibility really exists, if you CAN do this.
I posted this to you, two threads ago...
Go read your answer to me...
It was full of I knows, just like your responses to others today have been...
So, can you do this?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
