Journaling: W, I and our Ls met. I was able to be friendly and business like during the meeting. W knows I am not opposing or assisting this goal of hers. This meeting was to sit down and hash out the framework of the D agreement. W spoke little during the meeting and would not look me in the eye. Several times she covered her mouth with her hand.

W got a 2X4 of reality when we examined the asset to debt ratio. She recovered when it came out I will pay spousal support until I retire or she marries. The amount is to be determined. She stated she will opt to carry her half of the debt to safeguard her half of the 401K. W’s L wants the house listed for sale by the end of the month. I think that is ambitious given the amount of work I think will be required to get it in saleable condition. We will have to wait to see what the realtors think needs to be accomplished. We each have a list of documents to gather and present to the Ls and to inventory the household items for division. This is all just the mechanics of the D.

After the meeting while walking to my car I noticed W and her L having an animated discussion in the parking lot, I do not know what that means nor will I speculate upon it.

I feel pretty flat about all of this. It helps me tremendously to think about this as a business we are dissolving and not the end of a 30yr relationship.

I am ok now…waiting for the other shoe to drop. I know I need to face forward and look to the future. This is easier said than done, but needs to be accomplished.

I look at volcanic beach sand and ask myself what would Chesty do?

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill