I then did some bad Dbing and said we don’t have to do this.
Don't feel bad about this. I've made my share of mistakes too. I'm sure a lot of us have.
Hopefully, some of the vets will be by soon to give you some help.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13