Hi TAMF,

I know it is not easy but don't beat yourself up on what happened.

You are not the only one on this board who has gone through that

type of encounter.

I know you will make it through this tough time in your life.

Our spouses are not the same people that they once were. It is so

very difficult to grasp that concept. I still find myself

getting roped back in from time to time. Then it seems like I

have to climb back out of that hole again.

What you are feeling is totally normal. The minute we feel we

have our expectations of what is happening in check, we let down

our defenses and give benefit of doubt to others thinking

everyone is programmed the same way.

The MLC'rs are broken and you did not break your H and you also

can't fix him.

I know you know this already but it is what I keep reminding

myself when I get to those low spots emotionally.

Hang in there TAMF,

WS