She then went on to say how she wanted to have a long talk a month ago, but I wasn't available and I never rescheduled it, and things just aren't working out between us, and something has to change and she just can't go on like this.
Did you agree with her? Did you say: Yeah your right, this isn't working for me either. You should start lookig for another place to live.
I agreed that things weren't good and that I was also not happy with the current situation. I didn't have the courage to suggest she move out, although I was thinking it.
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W got her last unemployment check 2 weeks ago. She doesn't have a job lined up yet and is getting nervous about how she is going to pay for school, she is 2 years away from a degree in a new career field. She wants to get a PT job with flexible hours so she can continue to attend class. I make just enough to cover the family bills without much extra. I'm sure her ideal scenario is for me to move out and continue to pay all her bills and support her and the kids.
Remeber the LBS creed, let her problems BE her problems.
I'm trying, but if her car gets reposessed then it's a problem for me and the kids.
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The only problem is that would leave me with no money to support myself
Seems pretty substantial to me. Is she concerned about this for you? Some of her divorced friends have deadbeat ex-H and I have heard them telling my W how they wished they had done better at the D table. I think my W is looking out for #1 and has the kids in second place, and I might be a distant 3rd, maybe.
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She has a few divorced girlfriends that she talks to frequently and I'm sure she is getting lots of legal advice from them.
Mind reading, but she may be getting advice.
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I feel part of my W's resentment and anger towards me is due to the fact that she is trapped in the same house with me due to financial reasons. I't seems that no matter how hard I DB I just can't overcome that hurdle.
Maybe she can stay with one of those D girlfriends of hers. Her one friend is only 10-minutes away and my W is over there at least 1 night a week anyway.
It can be debated whether or not it is a good thing for the WAS to leave the home. It helped me in my Sitch. I know it's hard living with someone who doesn't want to be there. I beleive my W felt the same way, She was a SAHMom. Once she secured a nice paying job, she saw it as her way out of the M.
Continue to GAL and be happy. She will notice.
Thanks for the words. I Get by with a little help from you fine folks.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
