Just another note that may help clarify my sitch. W got her last unemployment check 2 weeks ago. She doesn't have a job lined up yet and is getting nervous about how she is going to pay for school, she is 2 years away from a degree in a new career field. She wants to get a PT job with flexible hours so she can continue to attend class. I make just enough to cover the family bills without much extra. I'm sure her ideal scenario is for me to move out and continue to pay all her bills and support her and the kids. The only problem is that would leave me with no money to support myself. My W has some friends in the area that she could probably move in with, but I doubt she would consider leaving the house and kids with me. She has a few divorced girlfriends that she talks to frequently and I'm sure she is getting lots of legal advice from them. I feel part of my W's resentment and anger towards me is due to the fact that she is trapped in the same house with me due to financial reasons. I't seems that no matter how hard I DB I just can't overcome that hurdle.
Boom,
Your wife is the one running away from the marriage and the family; she is the one who should finance the flight. Either entirely, or certainly in proportion to your incomes (hers being imputed as a reasonable part-time income at MINIMUM, if not full-time). It's not your responsibility to finance her "finding herself."
This is her journey; let her walk it (and pay for it). As a friend of mine used to say, "It's time for her to put on her BGPs" (Big-Girl Panties)
I haven't really followed your sitch that closely; is there a OM involved?
