Here's another question that may be unanswerable....so many on this board profess to still love their WAS despite all the horrible things they do. I feel absolutely NO love for mine, he is a complete stranger and I despise him. I am horribly uncomfortable when I have to interact with him, whether it's via text, phone, or in person. He looks terrible, ugly, and like a shell. I cannot envision him as he was anymore. Earlier on I could envision us happy again someday, but not now. What does that mean? Is it a defense mechanism, or did I not really love him to begin with? Or something else? Am I the only one to feel this way?


Me- 35
H- 36
M- 7
T- 9
D3, D5
Bomb 1/21/11
EA/PA began 12/10?
Discovered A 3/2/11
S- 3/3/11
OW gone- 4/27/11
H says he wants to reconcile, but lacking action