S13 was with me this past weekend. I live twenty minutes from XW.
He had lacrosse practice in town where xw lives, so I took him. His little buds text him asking if he wants to "go downtown" after practice" and ride bikes.
She told him his bike would be available after practice. We show up at 1230, there it is in the driveway.....in all it's ramp-jumping, "Cliff Hangar", "Hart Attack", ride 40 mph glory. Just sitting in XWs driveway.
Uh..uh....uh! NOT SO FAST!!!!!!
Before he can take it, there's one trick:
Because it is MY weekend, when he's done riding for the day, rather than being allowed to bring the bike back to her house,which is where he lives, she instructs him that "Your father must take the bike back to his house"...(because .....it's MY weekend, and I "Must be Held Accountable")
Mind you. His friends live by XW. I live on a street with 90 degree hills and no kids.
She expected me to take the bike in my trunk to my house for Saturday evening and Sunday, but I would be allowed to return it on Monday morning. Can you say CONTROL FREAK?
I told S13 I wasn't doing that. Period. If he wanted to stay and ride, he would have to follow the Law of Natural Consequences". I would not participate in this ridiculous game.
He chose to ride and return the bike to XWs house at 4:00PM Saturday, at which time I picked him up and took him to hockey tryouts. She wasn't home. She was picking up "Grandpa/Boyfirend". He merely put it in the garage, and off we went.
Sure as S&it: He called me this morning to tell me that XW had taken his bike because "Your father did not take the bike to his house like he was supposed to".
It's all about "Holding me to the standard"...my weekend....my house.....never the two shall meet.....his house on my weekend...oil and H2O!
Pity.
Mattie:
My wife has two girls who are the same ages as my 2 girls, and they knew each other from years ago. We're in the process of finishing the basement in our house for when they descend on us from college in 6 weeks. That part is great. Fortunatley my wife knows what a psych case XW is.
It didn't help that S13 asked new wife to be his mother on Facebook and XW found his page and lost her sh*t. No reflection WHY he might have done that. Just her usual lashing out. Two kids destroyed....one to go.
