Haven't posted in a while because sitch hasn't changed much. I have been following DB and not initiated any R talks, problem is, W hasn't initiated any either. It's been 5 or 6 weeks of continual limbo. We sleep in the same bed, treat each other well in front of the kids, and continue to lead parallel (platonic) lives like roommates. I keep up my PMA, resist the urge to pursue and question, work on GAL, but things don't seem to improve. I just found out W was behind on some bills and I called to see what was up. I asked: " why didn't you say something ?". She responded: "I don't know what to say, things between us are difficult, I don't know which was way is up, we should talk" I replied: "I'm home every day and always available to talk"
She then went on to say how she wanted to have a long talk a month ago, but I wasn't available and I never rescheduled it, and things just aren't working out between us, and something has to change and she just can't go on like this. I asked what kind of change she thought would make her happy and she replied: "I told you months ago". At this point my version of history and hers started to diverge and I resisted the urge to argue. My understanding all along is that she was unhappy, confused, and didn't know what would make her happy. I was backing off and giving her room to figure things out while I did the DB and GAL. I think she decided a while ago how she wanted things to turn out, and maybe she just assumed that I figured it out. I guess we will have a R talk tonight when I get home from work. Any advice?
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
