You are right. I will go forward and take what my state allows me in the D. I will also let H continue to pay the utilities as long as he's willing...I cannot deny that it helps and gives me a little breathing room.
I thought I would give an example of how much the MLCer changes. My H was always a man's man. Head of household, financial provider. Maker of decisions on how the money would be spent, etc.
My D12 who is currently on vacation with H, ow, and family, called me this morning. She told me some of the things she had been doing. She told me she had been shopping yesterday with H and ow. H and D12 were in one section of the store and ow in another. D12 spotted a sweater that she loved with the name of the area that they are visiting. H picked it up for her. They were walking around looking at other things when ow joined them. ow spotted the sweater, took one look at the price tag ($40) and demanded that H put it back because it was too expensive. H puts it back. When ow goes over to look at wind chimes which she collects, H goes back, gets the sweater, pays for it and tell my D12 to run it out to the truck and hide it so ow doesn't see it.
That, ladies and gentlemen, is NOT the man I married.
