Standing up to the punches

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BITS. I need some guidance here. Help please.

Right now wife is on my medical insurance plan. I was debating on whether i should just go ahead and carry her on my insurance or give her a heads up. Talked to dad on saturday and he suggested to put that ball in her court so that she knows the consequences for her actions on D. I emailed her asking her how she wanted to handle the medical insurance. I called W this morning asking how daughter was doing. Then W brings up the medical insurance and says she thought that i would be carrying her till the end of the year when she gets a job.

It really hurts a lot for me to be doing this. I hate doing this to her. My family tells me that if she can take my name out of our joint saving accounts and not feel anything then i should be okay with this too.

I'd like to know what you guys think. Was it bad that i emailed her about taking a decision on her medical insurance? I feel that even if we get divorced, i should carry her insurance. But again, she has been quite business like when it comes to taking decisions that benefit her. She has not given an iota of thought about both of us here.

I am lost on this one.