I don't remember if you have broken the sexual drought with her yet. I'd say your goal should be to get back to lovemaking, not getting her to move in. Sex can break down fortress walls.
No. W won't stay at our house bc it is 'weird' and she doesn't want to stay in 'our house as a guest'.
But, she brought up staying at the hotel/casino last night. SS was going to be home early this morning, so the thought of staying was only in passing.
I think that W is trying to protect herself emotionally here with this issue.
BITS Denver
Mindreading. Personally, I think she wants you to SEDUCE her, and she wants to see if "it" -- or at least a spark of "it" -- is still there. I think many of the other pieces of the puzzle have been coming together for her, but that maybe the "in love" feelings still aren't there (made worse by the fact that she kept in contact with OM for so long, and may still) and she doesn't want to commit to the marriage if she's going to feel platonically toward you.
I think you need to step up to the plate, and build some sexual tension between the two of you, Denver. Make your convos with her 90% less frequent, but the ones you DO have, you need some flirtation, and more importantly you need to ACT.
Put more succinctly: you need to get your "mojo" back, man.
