I have 2 very specific questions I would appreciate input on from a DB/DR perspective:
1) Our 14 year anniversary is coming up in 3 weeks, and I am not sure what to do. I am not sure if I should ask her if she wants to go to dinner, or get the babysitter, or what? I originally had a weekend away to Paris planned before all this happened.
2) What is the DB/DR perspective on trying to set up rules for separation? My wife is planning to find her own place and move out. I would very much like to see us agree on rules, such as not seeing other people. Opinions?
Reminder, here is our current status: M14 yrs D8 S6 ILYB speech Nov 2010 I want a divorce speech March 1, 2010
MC one session. Nothing since
She has an EA (married, 2 kids) from former work. She said it developed over last year they worked together. They kissed "passionately" once when they recently had lunch. (divorce speech followed the next week).
She has said she still feels the same. Feels nothing for me at all, wants out, and wants a divorce to have her freedom, and find passion in her life again.
Wants to put the kids priorities first in divorce, and has no desire to fight over anything.
We live in the same house, sleep in the same bed. Strained discussions, zero physical contact. No arguing (nothing to argue about).
Been DB/LRT serious for about 5-6 weeks. Doing ok disconnecting and not doing anything like pressure. BUT not doing well finding myself and finding my life of me. I am not displaying well my attractive side. Not down exactly, just more like a zombie around the house, except I really enjoy my kids, I am happy and upbeat with them.
We live a very long way from home temporarily. Was supposed to be 2 years, but we will go home early this summer due to this.
