The Roller Coaster Keeps on Rolling

[Denver_2010]

No, I don't think she is trying to make you back off. I think she is trying to maintain the status quo -- she is invulnerable, and you are kissing her @$$. Perfect situation. Why change it?

But for you, it's not perfect. It [censored]. So you need to change it. You need to become the mystery man. You know, the lawyer you are trying to reach, but he is so wrapped up in a case you can't get him? You need to show her that you have a life. You've been telling her that. But you haven't been showing her that, and that is the danger pursuing. You've said your piece. Several times. So walk away. Get busy. Defend that guy. Let her feel the need for you.

Well, I don't really have much of a choice. Unless I want to lose my career along with everything else. I know that you are right and have been considering this myself over the past several days.

I don't remember if you have broken the sexual drought with her yet. I'd say your goal should be to get back to lovemaking, not getting her to move in. Sex can break down fortress walls.

No. W won't stay at our house bc it is 'weird' and she doesn't want to stay in 'our house as a guest'.

But, she brought up staying at the hotel/casino last night. SS was going to be home early this morning, so the thought of staying was only in passing.

I think that W is trying to protect herself emotionally here with this issue. I agree, sex could be huge in breaking down the wall. I think that W knows this too. But, I think that she is afraid.

Thanks Lotus.

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Denver