update on my sitch II

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grr... i hope that being a little less available to her will shake up the status quo a bit and just create some mystery.

she has been contacting me mostly about logistical stuff which is almost all done. she needs help with a a few things at the house that i'm not required to do (like sealing the slate floor and opening the pool) my plan is to let her suggest a day for these things to happen and then let her know that that day is no good for me and suggest another day. just be less available than she expects.

she does ask me questions too though... random stuff like "so, how's life?" or questions about my family. she is communicating.

[grr]

that sounds like a plan!

remember though, no expectations

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wait... you mean she's not going to call me wednesday and beg me to take her back?

dang it lol

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update......

have been in contact every few days. nothing major but i'm trying to be friendly and let her initiate.

good news on the GAL front though... i have got a job! it will be in oklahoma city which is about an hour and fifteen minutes away but not that big of a deal. way closer than what i was considering. i interviewed last week and the COO of the company was impressed enough to offer me a better job than the one that i was being considered for. solid ego boost for me

there really hasn't been much more to report. my sister had lunch with my wife a couple of weeks ago and the impression that she got was that my wife needed some time alone. my wife hasn't taken down the pictures of us on facebook and doesn't want to date anyone. i believe that she needs some time to try and define herself as a person and we'll see where we end up when she is further along in that.

[Starsky309]

Congrats on the new job, WN! I didn't want to say it until you had one, but NOT having one was probably a major attraction-killer for your W.

This is good!

Starsky

[sandi2]

Congrats!

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yeah i agree starsky... going to be a lot of travel and based in a town a little over an hour away but whatever. it's a good job and i needed something to go my way

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I'm meeting up with my (ex)wife this weekend to get some mail and stuff from her. I have a lot to tell her about, she knows that I got a job but i'm going to tell her the details and what my plan is for living part time in oklahoma city and party time here. i'm thinking about letting her know that i still miss her and that i want to start to reconnect. should i do this?

[MrBond]

No. Don't tell her any of it unless she asks and DEFINITELY don't tell her you still miss her. You just got divorced. Let that sink in to her. Act as if you've already moved on.

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i think that she is the type of person that if she thinks i have moved on she won't open up to me. i think that she needs to know that i am still here and not gone already.

but i could be wrong. that's why i'm here