I want to officially welcome you to divorcebusting.com! It is hard to tell if you're making progress when there are so many ups and downs and it affects you emotionally. The best/easiest way is to set goals (have you read Divorce Remedy?).
Small, action-oriented, positively stated, things you want MORE of in your relationship. These are NOT your to-do list items. If that is hard to do right now, list the things that are good right now. We'll help you set your goals and monitor them.
The idea is that you focus on increasing the positive and reducing the negative.
In the meantime--please focus on YOU. Please take several days/a week to focus on treating yourself well. Treat yourself the way you wish he would treat you. Don't spend time talking to family and friends about him, they mean very well, but it might not help. Right now, give yourself permission to think about him only when you type your thoughts right here on the board. Spend the rest of the on what you need to do and then positives for YOU. Things that take care of you, things that make you happy. Consider it your homework.
