Am I doing everything wrong?

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DG,

[/quote]Be honest with yourself, if he showed up on your doorstep and said he wanted to work things out, would you welcome him back without reservations? I would hope not.

No...I wouldn't! I have actually told him that I do not want the marriage that we had. I have told him that I want a new marriage and that moving back home and picking up where we left off would not fix anything.


Sandi,

I wonder if your H is playing word tricks with you. Is he twisting things around to make him sound like a victim? Your the bad one and he doesn't know if he can trust you? But, he left the M and is having an A with OW. [quote]

I probably should have been a little more clear. I don't think that he is twisting things around and trying to make them ALL my fault. He says that he knows that he is in the wrong with OW (which is new b/c that was not the case a month ago) I honestly think these are positive changes and conversations because he does not usually discuss his feelings at all. He actually told me yesterday that he loves me and that he is working things out in his head and that he will get there.

I'm trying to be there for him as that is a 180 from the last 2 years. I was struggling to be there anyone during that time...including myself. So...I'm getting a life for myself and being his friend which is somethings that I have not done in a LONG time.

dmod,

I am observing the situation and I'm trying to be objective. I think sometimes (just as Michelle says) that I get too excited about the small positive changes, but overall I think I am maintaining my cool. I never get into arguments with him, but I DO tell him if he has made me angry or hurt my feelings (another 180 for me).



I really appreciate you all taking the time to help me. This is going to be a LONG journey and it's amazing to know that I can share my thoughts with all of you and get great advice!!!

I hope that you all have a very Happy Day