Punkin,

No 2x4's from me. I've been there.

They do get nasty when they realize things aren't going according to 'their' plan.

You've had your say. Even if you get a response, IMO, say no more. Your H's desperation is showing. Let him flap in the wind.

(((Hugs))) I know this is tough stuff, but you'll be better than OK.