Hello Sandi, I wrote my journal entry before logging on and reading your post. I really did not expect to see another post in this thread. Thank You for it.
The weekends are slow as most everyone is GALing or dealing with their own drama. So I’ll try an elaborate a little. The coach and I spoke about most of what follows. I will not be able to quote the conversation nor do I think it wise to do so. This was my session and each sitch is unique.
It is pretty much a given W will see her decision through. It is in her makeup to do so. The coach helped me accept this, but did not allow me to give up hope. As we read so much on this board I will be done when I am ready to be done.
W ran away from home, specifically her mother and has never reconciled that relationship. She is now running away from this M and stating I treated her just as her mother treated her. The coach asked how W’s mother acted following W departure and how I might act differently. So we discussed a few ideas.
A statement like “W we used to be partners. As partners we supported each other and each others decisions even when we had individual reservations. I disagree with the decision to dissolve our partnership. I will not oppose it, but I will not assist you acting upon this decision.” essentially drops the rope.
The meeting on Monday will not be pleasant for either of us. I need to keep my attitude as businesslike as possible when discussing the disillusionment of this partnership. That is what I need for my sanity to think of the D as, a disillusionment of a business partnership.
There was more, these are the high points related to this situation that I remember. We also spoke about W and my son and my anxiety over enabling him to focus his situational awareness where it needs to be and away from this drama.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
