DB seems to be more about continuing to move forward with your life with or without our H At first, many of us come here to try to get M back I changed some of my behaviors at first for that reason only My H did not return, but I felt it was a time I could make amends for my part of the R, all the times I critized him..so I stopped all the times I didnt listen, so I started to listen It was too late..also because of his MLC, I believe I was not dealing with a full deck He was in an affair with a 26 year old..I didnt know that..after a few years he Married her. I was told she is addicted to pain pills and drinks he was a sober recovering alcoholic since the age of 21 he seemed very different..like someone who I didnt know someone who all of a sudden wanted to play more than he wanted to be a dad someone who stayed out till 4 am, when once he was a very reliable man Over time, I began to realize this must be a crises after reading posts and books then , after years of this I saw him acting out in more bizarre ways Its like watching a person have some kind of mental breakdown and some are worse than others yes,Its hard on the kids at first, but many kids seem to adjust over time all your feelings are normal and valid all of us questioned everything too, each of us has probably had to come to terms with understanding the crises in our own way Hang in peace
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