SA, Cadet's posting is spot on. Listen to your lawyer and do not short change yourself.
You h is living in la la land and it will not break him to assist with the utilities. If he offers to pay them, LET HIM!
Your h is the one that walked out the door and he will need to learn to be a man and accept his responsibilities, yep, even the the ones he left behind. Reality will soon set in, so get those papers completed and go for what is rightfully yours. Do not short change yourself as you will not have enoug to live on if you do.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
