Do not let him off the hook from his finanical resposibility. That is enabling.
Listen to your lawyer and get what is rightfully yours. 50/50 in your state. No more no less. It more than likely is pretty cut and dried in your sich.
Do not worry about your husband. He will have to put on his big boy pants and figure out what he must do. He may spew, he may not, who knows. He is still out there in another world and he may never come back to this one. Then again you can never tell. You must keep living your life "as if" he is not coming back. I think it still applies even now.
Did I get all the questions? If not you know where to find me.....
