Apologies for threadjack but your h was one of the more 'reasonable' MLCers wasn't he?
I am not advocating 'forcing' a change, but simply recognising when the time has come for a radical change. for our own sake.
Backfiring to me implies expectations. Moving on is what we want to do. I have no hopes at all that my h will ever come out of MLC, and so i get on with my own life. I am not sure how you would leave enough room for someone to join you who appears to hate everything about you!
