But not everyone feels comfortable with this solution, and that's okay. You have to feel in your heart that you are doing the right thing. If it feels wrong to you, don't do it. If it feels okay, comfortable or even exciting, give yourself permission to enjoy it.
So MWD's advice is that we are to go by our feelings, and not by our thoughts? Isn't that what got us here in the first place -- our wayward spouses saying "I feel like my marriage has been dead for a long time, and it feels good to be with OM/OW, and so I'm going to keep on running away from my marriage"???
I'd rather see the sex-or-no-sex be a part of a well-thought-out PLAN by the betrayed spouse, and not based on their FEELINGS, which -- let's face it -- are garbled at best at they are reeling from what's happened to them.
