Crushed - I love the 'I was never happy' Occasionally there is a variation on the theme 'I was sometimes happy' and 'I acted happy for everyone else' ahhhhhh
Don't want to be competitive here but my xh was apparently unhappy with me for over 30 years. Now there is a real hero don't you think? And he never said a word, although I was supposed to have known he never really loved me, and was therefore utterly in the wrong to be upset when he left me.
You would think though, that having been so unhappy and now with the person who is so 'right' for them that they might be nice??
Like Snodderly's xh mine is only nice when he wants something. But I do actually find it chilling that someone we loved and trusted can become someone so manipulative and cruel. I think that is the real trauma for us of the crisis - not the affair, not the wild behaviour, but the turning on us. Good if we can laugh at it eventually, but I suspect that most of us have to go through a lot of soul searching before we get to that place.
